In so many ways all families deal with divorce. It's like categories of burns:
Third-Degree Divorce: You are an adult child of divorce who grew up to be a divorced parent (statistically speaking, you are far more likely to end up as the latter if you grew up as the former).
Second-Degree Divorce: You are either the child of divorce or you are an adult divorcee but not both.
First-Degree Divorce: Many or most of your family members and friends are divorced but you are not.
I write the series of posts titled "Divorce Diaries" to all of us, in all our relationships with the Big D: marriage and intimacy; dissolution and despair; relief and revenge; renewal and redemption. Whatever your connection is, however burned you are, here you'll find advice, solace, guidance and, ideally, hope.
1. Top Truths
Even a good divorce takes you to bad places but you don't have to go with it.
2. Top Tips
For some, divorce inevitably will be ugly. But for others – while splitting up is a grief-filled experience full of genuine loss, regret and hardship – it also offers opportunities to redefine, remake and dramatically improve your relationship with your ex. Here are 10 Top Tips to protect and insulate your fragile peace and nurture your emerging new relationship...
Divorce Sex: Naughty + Secret = HOT!!!
You see it on TV all the time – a divorced couple hopping into the sack for some afternoon delight . There's even a song devoted to divorce sex from the television show "Cougar Town," with the line: "It's the best….but you'll regret….sex with your ex….." The secrecy, the absurdity, the naughtiness is what makes it so hot! I conducted an informal survey and here's what I found...
How divorce can kill friendships
Dividing everything up after the divorce-quake is a gruesome business no matter how amicable or reasonable or relieved you are. It's like watching yourself have surgery. Everything that ever mattered, every element of your existence is pulled out, shuffled around, placed on the table for you and your ex and your lawyers or whomever to paw through. First you officially dispense with the inner-ring: kids, house, all the crap in the house, something called assets (wish I had some of those) and the pets. Then there's this weird outer layer of life that's harder to quantify but often requires some cold, calculated Divorce Math. For example, what do you do with your friends? I have some ideas...
5. Internet Infidelity
6. Affair-proof Your Marriage
7. Tweet Revenge
Divorce lawyer study says Facebook is top choice for evidence in ugly divorces
What you write, post, Tweet, re-Tweet, blog, Share and Tag can and will be used against you in Divorce Court. Social media and human idiocy have conspired yet again to create an even more cutting-edge way to be a jerk. But, as with all new technologies that cause despair, there is always an upside. If you happen to be divorcing such a jerk, you and your lawyer now have an explosive new weapon in your divorce arsenal.