Alone this holiday season? If being alone wasn't by choice, you're probably a bit bummed. But don't be. Holidays for single people can be a time to reinforce the good choices you've made in your life. Here's how to make your holiday bright, even when you're alone.
A Single Person's Holiday: Create Your Own Tradition
Just because you're single doesn't necessarily mean you have to be alone if you don't want to be. Invite others over who are also on their own, or pop over to someone's house, if not for dinner than for dessert or appetizers. Social time doesn't have to be defined as dinner with family.
A holiday for one means you can create your own tradition. Some ideas I've heard from other singles are:
- Traveling. Many singles take advantage of vacation deals during the holidays.
- A day of pampering. Taking time for yourself during the holidays can re-energize your spirit.
- Movie marathons and veg out days. Some busy singles love the thought of sitting on the couch all day with nothing more to do than watch their favorite films.
- A workout, then a few hours volunteering. One single I know participates in a community run followed by service at a food kitchen.
Think of All Those Families Arguing
It might seem odd to think of something like the stressful holidays other people have this time of year, but when you're single you can rejoice in the fact that you don't have to deal with the same problems that married folks do.
Many married people experience extremely stressful times during the holidays as they try to organize meals and get "the perfect gift" for everyone, and it actually brings anxiety and sadness rather than joy. Never assume that because there are more people around, your married friends are happier than you. Chances are they are looking forward to the time after the holidays when things slow down.
Holidays for Single People: You're Not Alone
It's natural for singles and married people alike to feel a little lonely at the holidays, but there are ways to combat loneliness.
First, note that loneliness is temporary. It's awful to feel lonely, but you can take steps to help. Doing things like volunteering or increasing your social circle can help you connect. Learning to enjoy being alone can make you cherish the times you spend by yourself.
Spending time online can also ease feelings of loneliness. Log on to Facebook or Twitter and chat with others who are also by themselves this time of year. If you'd like to meet more people, you can start by logging on to a dating site or one that encourages friendship (like Girlfriend Circles, Social Jane, or Meetup.)
Adjust Your Expectations
Many people are alone during this time of year, by choice or not. Embrace your solitary time now because you might look back on it with longing if your life changes at some point.
The image of the perfect holiday has been blown out of proportion by movies and television. In reality, it's just another day. If your holiday is great it only lasts for the same amount of time that a bad day does.