Feeling scared or even bummed about your love life? Whether you are committed to staying single or looking for a soul mate, you need to feel confident in order to attract the right person to you. Here are some common reasons midlife daters feel down about the dating world, and how you can your mojo back.
You Thought Meeting Someone in Midlife Was Going to Be Easy
If you're recently back in the romance world, you may have thought that being single was easy. After all, when you were in your 20s, meeting new people was no big deal. While it's true there are several ways for midlife people to meet someone special these days, it also takes work. You have to put yourself out there and try new things, and this can be uncomfortable if you're recently out of a long-term marriage or relationship.
Get your mojo back by trying out different methods of meeting people, such as online or speed dating. You might be surprised at how a new way to meet people can re-energize your search for someone special.
You've Lost Confidence About Your Appearance
Most midlife daters love the freedom of casually meeting people, but some are afraid of being rejected because of how they look. People who experience this usually have not dated since they were really young, and they mistakenly believe that finding love is all about being thin or having perfect skin and a flawless body. Attractiveness comes with confidence, and midlife is all about embracing the intelligence and spirit that experience brings.
If you're worried that people won't find you attractive, the best solution is simply to get out and enjoy a variety of activities. Doing more things and interacting with people will give you the confidence you need. You'll realize that you feel sexy and attractive simply by engaging in conversation and meeting people, rather than in being "young." Remember, being youthful is something that can be achieved at any age.
You're Worried You'll Never Meet Anyone Special Again
Some midlife daters fear that because they met someone great once, and that person is now gone, they may never meet anyone else that makes them feel the same way.
It's always difficult to move on from a marriage or long-term relationship, particularly if it was a good one. The way to get your mojo back is to date this time around with a completely open mind about who would be a good fit for you. When you were younger, you found someone who suited you for that time, and you were lucky enough to have that person change and grow with you as your relationship did. But now that you're in midlife, you are a different person now than you were in your 20s. (And thank goodness for that! Don't we all wish we could go back to our younger selves and tell them what we know now?)
When you clear your mind of expectations, you might be surprised at who you find attractive and click with now. You will find someone special, but he or she will probably be different than the person you fell in love with years ago.
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