It seems to me that if people dislike being married to each other so much, they would want to make their divorce go as quickly as possible. I'm not talking about divorces that naturally go through long court proceedings, I'm talking about the time it takes to file. As in, "Today I decide that I no longer want to live with you" and then "tomorrow I file to make it official."
But just like long engagements or couples who live together before marriage, everyone has their own schedule when it comes to filing for divorce. This is certainly true for Courteney Cox and David Arquette. Arquette finally filed for divorce on June 8th, but the two had been separated since October 2011. A year and eight months? That's a long divorce if ever there was one.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
Most of the time, when people divorce it's because they can't stand to live with each other anymore. Even in the case of couples who drift apart (and therefore don't have the anger that a spouse who has been betrayed seems to have), there is a desire to move on quickly. Once you decide that you're ready for a new life, you want that life to happen now.
So why, in the case of Cox and Arquette, did it take so long?
Best Friends Forever
Both Cox and Arquette have continually said kind, sweet things about each other, which is wonderful and confusing at the same time for two people who seemingly can't live together. They've been (at least to those of us who know them only through TV and tabloids) complete opposites. If any couple were to have a quick divorce, I would have put my money on these two.
And yet even as recently as January, Cox said that Arquette was her "favorite person in the world," and that "no matter what happens in our future, he's my very best friend."
Of course, this kindness is exactly what every couple strives off after a divorce, especially when there are children involved. However, it's very hard to pull off.
Opposites Attract, and Go Their Separate Ways
Did the fact that Cox and Arquette are such opposites have any effect on their divorce? Was their marriage as confusing as it seemed, and as a result the divorce needed to follow suit?
It's hard to say, but I think couples who want to work it out really do delay when it comes to finalizing things, and that's probably a good thing. You'd never want to make a quick decision about something as important as ending a marriage. If you're not sure if you're ready for a divorce, you need to put the brakes on.
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