If you've been single for any length of time, you know the dread that creeps into your mind when it comes to looking for a date on New Year's Eve. Will you be alone? Will you have somebody there to give you a good luck kiss to start the new year?
Going to a New Year's Eve party alone can be a drag for even the most confident midlife singles. In fact, even if you've vowed never to marry and are completely at ease with your single life, there's something about New Year's Eve that can make you feel a pang of sadness.
Some of this is the buildup of the day. Perhaps your friends and family ask you about your dating life as they hold hands and trade smooches with their significant other. Perhaps it's just your imagination that the whole world is paired up.
If a date for New Year's Eve is what you're after, you've got plenty of time. Yes, you do. Here are some strategies for getting a date for December 31st.
Find a New Friend First, Then Agree to Set Each Other Up
By the time you get to midlife, chances are your friends have set you up with just about everyone they know. If you ask them for another set up, you'll wind up spending New Year's with someone you've already decided isn't for you.
Instead, aim to meet a new friend or two before the end of the year. Sites like Social Jane, Girlfriend Circles, and Companion Tree can connect you with people looking for platonic friends. As you get to know your new friends, you can talk about your desire for a New Year's date. Your new friend can introduce you to potential matches and you can do the same for them.
Besides that, having another midlife friend in your corner never hurts.
Email More Online Dating Matches
You've probably developed a smart, patient approach to online dating, where you email people occasionally and see where things take you. But if you have a goal to get a date for New Year's, you'll need to ramp up the time you spend on your favorite site.
While it definitely takes a slow and steady approach to find true love, it really doesn't take long at all to find a date. And that's all you're looking for. Chances are, there are others who are looking for the same thing.
Email people just to meet for coffee. Between now and New Year's, begin to talk about what your plans for the holiday are, and gage the interest of those you meet.
Take a Quick Class or Seminar
Find activities that will get you out in front of new people in the next couple of weeks. The best bet is to find something where you have one or two meetings so you can begin to make small talk and meet for coffee after the event.
Purposely bring up the topic of New Year's by saying, "What are your plans for New Year's Eve?" If someone balks, you can move on. If not, they might be looking for a date as well.
Finally, keep things light and fun. You're just looking for a date, not a serious relationship. If that develops at some point, that's great. If not, at least you had a good time ringing in the new year.