Midlife women typically complain that men on dating sites only want someone younger, but the truth is with a great profile they will attract the right guy for them. How to do it? Pictures are the first place to start.
Men are even more visual than women when it comes to contacting someone online, but that doesn't mean you have to be a beauty queen or size two. Photos that show off your life and unique personality will set you apart in the online dating world.
Profile Mistake: Old Photos and Too Much Skin
Women who are in great shape (and even some who aren't) sometimes show pictures of themselves in low-cut tops and swimsuits. Even if the pictures are from vacation shots (and you're using them to help tell your story), it will give the wrong message to guys on the system. If you're looking for a genuine relationship, avoid posting pictures with too much skin.
What about an older picture of you that makes you look really great? Forget it. Take fresh photos that show who you are right now. Women sometimes post an older shot because it makes them feel good, but the reality is that guys want to see what you're all about right now in the present.
Another no-no is posting photos with you and a kid. Even if it's your kid (and you naturally want your guy to love children), your date only wants to see you. Anything that takes attention away from it, including pictures of your kids, will make his attention go elsewhere online. He may move on to a new online dating profile without even contacting you.
Profile Success: Photos That Show Your Personality
Contrary to popular belief, guys don't just want a pretty face. They want someone they can have fun with, enjoy great conversation, and even someone who will challenge them out of their comfort zones a bit. The way to attract someone online is to show them as much of your personality as you can, and photos are one way to do that.
Ideally, you want between three to five photos in varying poses and backgrounds. Let the photos reflect things you talk about in your profile. If you say you're adventurous, for example, show a picture of yourself on a thrill-seeker vacation or the view from a spot that you bungee jumped from. These types of illustrations help a guy get a better sense of who you are.
Don't worry if your favorite hobbies involve going to new restaurants or reading books, either. It isn't the type of activities you do, it's the fact that you are a vibrant, unique woman. So let your photos reflect that.