Should Nudity at Home be Off Limits?

Christina Aguilera and Heidi Klum parade around their homes in the nude. Should you?

Is nudity at home around kids alright?Source: Getty Images

nudist colonies are one thing, but is nudity at home ok? And does the fact that many celebrities embrace their nakedness make a better case for it, or not?

In a box called "Celebrity Nudity Exposed!" in the July 19 issue of Us Weekly, singer Christina Aguilera says she and her husband "do everything naked" on Sundays in their home, and supermodel Heidi Klum says she even bares all in front of her mom and dad. ("I grew up in a very easygoing family," she says. "My parents were always naked.") And last November the actress Hilary Swank told Marie Claire she was in the all together around her boyfriend's 6-year-old son ("every morning he comes into the bedroom, and you're just nude"), and a few years ago, Britney Spears' bodyguard said she was unclothed at home, too.

Should you and your family follow in these celebrities' very bare footsteps? A few issues to consider before propagating nudity at home:

Research. Studies are few and far between. Bare-all proponents can cite a 1998 study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior that looked at 200 kids exposed to parental nudity at an early age. Researchers then assessed these kids at ages 17 or 18 for levels of self-acceptance, relations with others, antisocial and criminal behavior, substance abuse, suicidal thoughts, quality of sexual relations and problems associated with sexual relations—and found no apparent harmful effects.

Culture. You don't live in a nudist colony. Even if your family believes in letting it all hang out, most others may find it inappropriate.

Misunderstandings. Remember Sue Miller's novel, The Good Mother? In the bestseller, mom Anna Dunlap gets into hot water after her beau lets her 3-year-old daughter see him take a shower.

Sexual overtones. In U.S. culture, even innocent nudity can raise questions. Historically, psychiatrists have written about whether kids exposed to parental nudity are victims of subtle sexual abuse. The theory, as noted in the 1998 study: it's traumatic because it leaves kids feeling powerless, because children may unfavorably compare their anatomy to their parents, and because it may intensify Oedipal desires.

Unexpected visitors. What if your neighbor knocks to borrow a cup of sugar, or the mailman needs you to sign for a package? Of course, you could always keep a robe by the front door. (Maybe the mailman factor is the reason Christina Aguilera has chosen Sundays to be her nude day?)

Age. As Slate noted during the Britney Spears bruhaha, a Stanford University study from the 1980s found U.S. kids develop a sense of modesty between the ages of 4 and 8.

Comfort. In the same "Celebrity Nudity Exposed!" box in Us Weekly, actor Alexander Skarsgard calls being naked "liberating." Of course, loose clothes and pajamas can feel liberating, too.

Golden rule. Would you want your kids to see another family nude? For obvious reasons, don't bare all around others. And remind your kids that even if they're sometimes clothes-free at home, they should cover up at friends' houses.

Sanitation. Don't forget the "ewww" factor. Would you want to sit on a couch where anyone else had a naked bottom? 

Energy use. In the winter, you need to turn up the thermostat if you're bare. Layering up with sweaters is a greener, less expensive way to go.

Windows. Do you want to keep your blinds closed 24/7? If you plan to be in your birthday suit, you're going to need to. Otherwise, you can't blame peeping Toms.

Gossip. Your kids talk about you. Do you want it getting around the neighborhood that you're the nude family?

Kids' questions. Be prepared for awkward queries from kids and grandkids. "Why is your stomach so flabby?"

The fashion factor. Clothes cover up the flab—and they can be fun, too.

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Anonymous | Oct 19, 2010
wow... this actually qualifies as "news" on cnn.com? this story is just a thinly veiled attempt to push some wacko agenda shared with people like sarah palin & christen o'donnell who attempt to use some weird sexual component to try and present themselves as being qualified to cast judgement on everyone else... its these people who are the sick ones
Anonymous | Oct 19, 2010
This is a painfully ignorant article. Karen, I am so sorry you are so uptight and rigid. Breath and let go of what other people do in their homes.
Anonymous | Oct 18, 2010
Obviously Karen The Author was brought up in a certain way and she is trying to find reasons, however ignorant, to justify her own upbringing and preach the others! Except for the "research" bullet, which is the only scientific one that should count and which concludes "no harm", the rest of the bullets are pretty much self-justifications for the author.... thought up on-the-fly! C'mon Karen, write a more informed article that is backed by facts and research... it needs a little more legwork than this article took.
Anonymous | Oct 17, 2010
Should Nudity at Home be Off Limits? I don't think so. I am very self conscious about my body when I am around people I know...I wish I had been brought up in a more free house hold.
Anonymous | Oct 15, 2010
When it comes to nudity in the home, there is no definitive answer. For me, the experience of seeing my mother nude constantly even though I vocally let her know this made me uncomfortable was traumatic. She, like the commentators here, insisted I was a prude. She would do this until I left the house at 18 and disrespect my wishes for her to clothe. This made me feel very uncomfortable with the idea of sex, not more comfortable. BUT, this is just me and my comfort level. I have no problem with another parent's nudity as long as her/his child is okay with it and this is in an appropriate context (i.e. not one where the child feels powerless and inferior). In the end though, please respect the wishes of your children. Don't try and force nudity on them, especially in the bathroom and or insist on entering the bathroom while they are naked because "It's no big deal."
Anonymous | Oct 13, 2010

Wow... So much BS I don't know where to start... Let's take it one issue at a time (coming from a full-time nudist raising two kids 9, and 10 at a nudist community... full time... every day... all day long.):

 

"Research. Studies are few and far between." Crapola. Look for a book "Growing up without Shame" and check out that research.

 

"Culture. You don't live in a nudist colony." Okay, first off yes I do. And as such I consider myself to be FAR greater expert than YOU. Second, It's NOT a nudist "Colony" it's a resort, campground, facility, whatever. We put ants and lepers in colonies. But to address the writer's point, the nudist philosophy is that the world would be a far safer and more peaceful place if we all DID live in a society that tolerated nudity and didn't automatically sexualize it.

 

"Misunderstandings. Remember Sue Miller's novel, The Good Mother?" Well, no... never read it. But if you're trying to convince me that a 3 year old girl watching someone shower is harming the child in some way... Well, let's go back to the studies referenced in the above mentioned book... and the fact that at nudist resorts all across the country people of all ages see each other shower every day and studies show that it's not only not harmful, it's beneficial for kids to get a real impression of what people look like rather than the playboy vision of nudity.

 

"Sexual overtones. In U.S. culture, even innocent nudity can raise questions." Right. Well it's settled then. The US has it's head screwed on straight... All those backwards war-mongering countries like practically all of Europe where simple nudity is commonplace should take OUR lead - I mean we're the most powerful... Well, we've got the best way of life... Well... We've got SOMETHING they don't have don't we? I mean Heck... We're the greatest country in the world so what we do HAS to be right - doesn't it? Darn it all to heck... we're experts in EVERYTHING. We're Okay, they're NOT okay.

 

"Unexpected visitors. What if your neighbor knocks to borrow a cup of sugar" Oh for God sakes... you are a moron aren't you? What straws are you grasping now? Okay... Keep a robe by the door if you're THAT worried. Personally, I say let the neighbors know you're a nudist. If they stop over ask them from behind the door if they'd prefer you get dressed before letting them in. Nudists are NOT the broken people in society. We're doing it the right and natural way. It's the people obsessed with staying dressed that have the problems.

 

"Age. As Slate noted during the Britney Spears bruhaha, a Stanford University study from the 1980s found U.S. kids develop a sense of modesty between the ages of 4 and 8." Well, why do they develop this sense of modesty (or shame) in the US? Maybe it's because people like YOU tell us that we have to! Perhaps if you ever visited a nudist place and saw that kids of all ages play quite happily naked all day long for weeks on end without seeing the need for any clothes, you'd realize that it's just programming from society, school, and even parents.

 

"Comfort. In the same "Celebrity Nudity Exposed!" box in Us Weekly, actor Alexander Skarsgard calls being naked "liberating." Of course, loose clothes and pajamas can feel liberating, too." Well, it goes deeper than that. Why should I live in Florida in the summer and HAVE to dress up in my underwear just because YOU say so? If I'm more comfortable naked... fine.

 

"Golden rule. Would you want your kids to see another family nude?" Yes. I definitely want my kids to see others nude. Their friends, their families. This is how they get the idea of what a natural body looks like. I don't want people having sex in front of my kids, but cooking naked, watching TV, if they're all comfortable - great.

 

"Sanitation. Don't forget the "ewww" factor. Would you want to sit on a couch where anyone else had a naked bottom?" Awesome point, but nudists thought of this decades before you were born my uneducated friend... We sit on towels. You teach your kids to carry a towel, lay it down, sit on it. It's comfortable, and sanitary. Simple.

 

"Energy use. In the winter, you need to turn up the thermostat if you're bare. Layering up with sweaters is a greener, less expensive way to go." Well Duh. I can honestly report that there are no nudist resorts at the south pole. There are well over 20 in Florida. We're not stupid - we're practical. If you're comfortable dressed... be dressed. If it's hot, take your clothes off. YOU'RE the one suggesting that I have to be uncomfortably dressed in the heat of summer!

 

"Windows. Do you want to keep your blinds closed 24/7?" Well, it's hardly a concern to people living in a nudist resort, but whatever. Some houses offer more privacy than others. Do what's practical.

 

"Gossip. Your kids talk about you. Do you want it getting around the neighborhood that you're the nude family?" Yes I really DO want that. Even when I lived in Textile Society (nudist term for the rest of the world) I wanted the neighbors to know I was a nudist. If they saw me outside naked because they happened to be at the right angle between this and that bush or whatever - they'd not think I was up to something creepy. If I hide behind their imposed wall of modesty then I'm falling into THEIR way of thinking - that I'm the one who's wrong! I want them to know who I am and what I'm about. if they disagree with my lifestyle, fine. No worries. They'd better not go around thinking that I much care what they think of me though! I can only presume that the kids of the person writing this are neurotic. How am I supposed to teach my kids to be free and independent thinkers if they care what others think. I'd stack my kid's self-esteem up against his/hers any day of the week! My kids are confident enough to go outside nude - what can his/her kids do?

 

"Kids' questions. Be prepared for awkward queries from kids and grandkids. "Why is your stomach so flabby?"  Well, gee... what a nice opportunity to talk to your kids about body types, the effects of aging, and normal processes of time and childbirth! Your kids should NOT go around thinking that the only naked people they'll see (playboy and whatnot) are normal or natural! You can teach them what's good and proper, and that is fat and flab. If you're not comfortable answering that question - then you and your family should go to a nudist resort for a weekend and see real people naked. Obviously you're not at all comfortable with natural aging processes, and you've fallen into the media-trap of "everyone has to look like a super-model or they're not valuable".

 

"The fashion factor. Clothes cover up the flab—and they can be fun, too." Well sure clothes can be fun, but you seem to be taking it to some bizarre extreme and hiding behind your clothes! You're making such a big deal of fat and flab - get comfortable with yourself first. Stand naked in front of the mirror and get over the societal programming that you're not beautiful. You'll look awesome - you'll be accepted at a nudist resort. Do NOT try to program a whole generation that nudity is wrong or somehow bad for kids just because YOU have a problem with your body-image. Especially if you've not done any homework on the topic. Go get a clue, visit us someday and learn the subject before you try to pass yourself off as some sort of expert.

 

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Anonymous | Oct 13, 2010
I love the way Karen quotes the Puritanical nonsense theory was DEBUNKED in the 1998 study as a negative of home nudity, just because the study mentioned the theory. Classic air-head reporting.
Anonymous | Oct 13, 2010
Well thank you Karen (and CNN who linked this stupid article), for being objective and not pushing your views on the subject (obviously said with tons of sarcasm). This entire article is written from a very Puritan point of view; one that says sex is bad and we don't talk about those things. Karen most likely would be more happy living on the set of Mad Men. Of course, if it were not for her foresisters, her article would not have been published. And pssst ... some of them were nudists (gasp).
Anonymous | Oct 10, 2010
Following behavior of American celebrities is generally not a good idea, but they didn't invent nudity. The "ewww factor" is just ignorant. Nudists carry a towel to sit on. Actually, this entire article is ignorant. I can't waste my time disputing every misguided point made here.
Anonymous | Oct 13, 2010

agreed!

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