Getting a divorce is no easy decision, and as a result, you might be having second thoughts. No matter what the reason behind your marriage's problems, you owe it to yourself to proceed only if you're totally sure. Here are some reasons you might be thinking twice about ending your marriage.
It's Against Your Religious Beliefs
If your faith is important to you, ending your marriage will be a decision that likely goes against that. Maria Shriver, for example, has been rumored to be unsure on whether to go forward with divorcing Arnold Schwarzenegger because it goes against her religion.
If you're a faithful person, you might want to put off the decision until you can be more certain of your choice. Pray, talk to the religious leader in your church, and reflect on your decision before going forward.
You Want to Stay Married for Your Kids
People often talk about a marriage that is so filled with arguments that it's bad for the kids, but what if that wasn't the case? Perhaps you and your spouse didn't argue or disrupt your children's lives, but you grew apart or lost the spark in your marriage?
Some people choose to stay married until their kids are grown. They know their spouse is more like a friend than a lover, and they choose to put off finding love again until their children are adults and can better handle their parent's decision.
Your Spouse Doesn't Want a Divorce
If your spouse isn't ready to let go of your marriage, perhaps it's worth considering a reconciliation. Maybe one person in the marriage really was not aware of the problems that existed, and now that they know about it, they want to make an effort to change things.
If this is the case, it might be worth some time in counseling to see if you can really come to a point of peace in your marriage. If you can, you new married life may be completely different and even more fulfilling as compared with your early married life.
You Just Aren't Sure
Divorcing is a difficult decision, and no matter what your spouse has done or what you feel has ruined your marriage, you may be on the fence about moving on. This could be due to fear of what the future as a single person may bring or it might just be because you aren't ready to throw in the towel. Is that a bad thing? Of course not.
Bottom line, whether you should stay married or not is no one's business but yours. If you're having doubts, take the time you need to make sure the decision to end your marriage is the right one for you. Don't listen to friends or even society. Instead, listen to your heart, and do what's right for you and your family.
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