When your son or daughter or friend or, God forbid, potential spouse, confesses to you that they have some nervous jitters regarding their impending wedding you might want to think twice before you laugh it off as "just cold feet."
You might want to consider screaming: "DON'T DO IT!"
Researchers at the University of California, Los Angeles, say their four year study of 464 newlyweds determined that those with concerns and uncertainty about marriage were often less satisfied in their marriage. And women who married, despite doubts, were 2.5 times more likely to divorce four years later, the study found.
The UCLA team studied these 232 couples in Los Angeles during the first few months of marriage and then checked in on the couples every six months for four years. They had posed the question: "Were you ever uncertain or hesitant about getting married?" And asked for a yes or no answer. The response? 47 percent of husbands and 38 percent of wives said they had doubts, according to the study published online in the Journal of Family Psychology. Nineteen percent of the women who had those pre-wedding jitters were divorced four years later—compared with eight percent who had no doubts. For the husbands, fourteen percent who had had doubts were divorced four years later, compared with nine percent who had no doubts.
To me, this is common sense. To me, there was no need for a study. To me, the problem is that people don't listen to that voice that is telling them, this isn't right, don't to do it. The solution is simple: if you have that sick feeling in your gut, don't do it. Your gut is smarter than any UCLA professor. You really don't need someone with a degree to tell you what you already know.