Recently I wrote about a few celebrities who used an online dating service to meet someone. That got me thinking about what it might be like to date a celebrity, or at the very least, show up to a coffee date and see a famous person sitting before you. Would this cloud your feelings about the person and the date? Would you continue to get to know them and start up a relationship?
Before you answer, think about the things that come with dating a celebrity:
- Details of your personal life possibly shared in the media.
- Photos of you and your celebrity mate shared online.
- Opinions about your relationship shared and discussed by fans and media alike.
- Your mate traveling a lot.
- Kissing other people (if they're an actor and it's part of their job.)
In other words, if you're a private person or someone who just doesn't do very well with that type of fame, dating a celebrity might not be for you.
Thoughts on Dating a Celebrity
I'm not sure I would intentionally date a celebrity, but if I were single I might if I had a genuine connection with someone. I mean, why rule them out? On the other hand, in the past I decided not to pursue a relationship with people who had cats (I'm allergic), smoked, or had bushy eyebrows (don't ask), so would someone's celebrity status be a positive or negative for me?
Maybe a better question is, would dating a celebrity be something you'd be interested in? I asked several midlifers this question. Some of their answers are anonymous, while others gave permission for me to share their names. Here's what they said.
"Sure, I would date a celebrity but not because he's a celebrity. They are people. If he wasn't egotistical and I was attracted to him, sure!" ~Anonymous
I'm with you there, the ego has to be in check. If someone is a celebrity just because of what they do, that's one thing. If they are seeking the limelight constantly, then the implication is that they need a lot of attention, and that could be disastrous when it comes to relationships.
"I think this question can be complicated. I wouldn't want to be on tabloids or stalked by paparazzi so dating the type of celebrity who gets in these magazines would be too disruptive. The big plus in dating a celebrity is that they will usually be very attractive and creative. You have to recognize the celebrity as a person outside or their profession. They aren't their character or the person they are when performing." ~Anonymous
I imagine that some actors are so good at what they do, that people might assume they are like their characters. How many times have we heard that a celebrity is really shy in real life, or the hilariously funny comedian is really very somber when off-camera?
It can be hard enough to get people to see the real you in the most ideal conditions, but when you've entered their living rooms as a certain persona, will they ever really get to know you as you want them to?
"Celebs are just people with high profile jobs. They want to be known and appreciated for the kind of person they are, not by their fame and fortune. I can look through all the window dressing and find the true person within." ~Terri Jay
I agree that celebs are just like the rest of us and want to be appreciated for who they are. When I saw how many celebs had dated online, it reminded me of how difficult it must be meet people when you're famous.
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