Dear Kiss & Zutell,

I need your help to keep a disagreement from becoming a war. My wife has always taken pride in her appearance and for that I'm grateful. For a woman in her mid-50's, she looks terrific. One of her friends just blew a wad of $$ on a "boudoir photography" album. She's also in her fifties, and thanks to good lighting, makeup and Photoshop, her pictures look like a woman in her 20's. A completely different woman altogether, that is. Still, she fools herself into believing that's the "real" her.

I love my wife and I recently lost my job.

Dear Kiss & Zutell—

My friends are planning a girls' weekend to Miami. It sounds like a lot of fun and I really want to go. The problem?  My husband. He's totally against it.  We've been married for twenty-five years and I've never gone away with friends. He says the only vacation I should take is with him. I love my husband, but I would like some me time with the girls. We're all over the county and not getting any younger. I feel…

—Mad and Resentful.

Dear MAR—